Last week I had a great session with a client which was a perfect metaphor for what happens so often to us as human beings: we create stories according to our beliefs of how things ‘should’ be, which often have nothing to do with the truth. As a result we decrease our worth and our ability to have what we would love in life.

While working and exploring the statement “I am worthy of love” it brought us back to a series of experiences that occurred when she was five years old: My client would hide under the balcony believing that her mother would panic at the thought that she had run away/disappeared. She wanted to see her mom panic, run around looking for her in a great display of despair at the idea of having lost her. This in her mind would confirm that indeed her mom loved her. But mom to her dismay, never did run around in panic. My client repeatedly hid under the balcony in order to get the response that would finally prove that she was loved, but to no end, and she started to go about her life believing that mom did not love her.

My client once she got older told her mom about hiding under the balcony and asked her why she had never gone looking for her. Her mom answered very matter of fact, that she could see her hiding under the balcony and figured that she would come out when she felt like it!

We so often, especially as children, create beliefs or laws about our life, our worth and our destiny because of our interpretation of what is happening around us. Yesterday again I was reminded of the common belief of older siblings that they were not enough or not worthy of love anymore because mommy needed to have another baby and/or the new baby was more important because mom was paying a lot more attention to the baby.

Love & Light,

Dr Lise